Pass the Collection Plate

So the online dating scene hasn't been going well. A few conversations here and there, but nothing was really going anywhere. Then as I'm driving in the car one of the DJ's on the radio mentions a match making service that's available locally that sets people up. The thing that really appealed to me was that they set people up on lunch dates. Since I only work 4 days a week, that leaves one day to have a date without making a major production out of it by arranging childcare etc.

The other thing I liked was that they take all the guesswork out of who to initiate the date with. Everyone has a sit down interview and they will only match you with someone you're really going to click with. I liked the idea that it skipped through the silly getting to know you phase of online dating and went back to the old fashioned way of getting to know your date in person through conversation. Sounds great, right? This is CurvyGirl we're talking about here, so you know it couldn't be that easy...

I fill out the online form to request more information and just got off the phone with the representative from the company. She was very cheery and we really had a great time chatting. Then comes the part when she tells me about the fees. To be honest, I was prepared for anywhere between $500 and $700. Uh...not so much...for a year's subscription (with a guaranteed 10 introductions) it was $2000!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Alternatively I could choose the 6 month subscription (with a guaranteed 5 introductions) for a bargain basement price of $1850!!! Who the hell would choose the 6 month subscription?!?! My mouth literally dropped open and I have never been so grateful that video phones didn't take off the way they were predicted to. I also now know why that woman was so damn perky.

Let's just entertain the notion that we're in a parallel universe and I have an extra $2000 laying around for this service...the plus side would be that I'd be introduced to men with the type of residual income that would suit my penchant for Coach and Prada. Not to mention, anyone that would spend that type of cash is clearly serious about meeting someone. But since in this particular dimension, I don't have that sort of money I'll now be accepting donations via paypal. Alternatively, I'm also now more open to those blind date offers that I've turned down in the past...

Keep hope alive

Today I got a notification that someone wanted to initiate a phone call with me through the dating website. I'll admit, I did get a little rush of excitement that someone was interested. Let me tell you, after a few weeks of nothing, it was nice to have some "action". So I log onto the site and....it's some 50 year old balding man. Uh...no thanks.

But because hope springs eternal, I take the time to go through the daily connections that are sent to me. As I open up one profile, this is what I read:

I'AM A FUN LOVING KIND MAN I TRY TO ENJOY LIFE TO THE FULLLESS AM WORKING ON BEING A CHIRSTAIN AM YOUNG I USELY DATE OLDER WOMAN NONE REALLY MY AGE I'AM 34 YRS OLE I JUST TRY TO ENJOY LIFE IT'S SELF I LIKE KIDS A WHOLE LOT IVE HAVE SOME MYSLF,I STAY FARAWAY FROM DRAMA I DONT LIKE THAT STUFF IN MY LIFE AND DNT NEEDOR WONT IT.AM VERY PRIVATE AND LIKE TO GO OUT BUT NOT TO CLUBS OR HOUSE PARTYS I RATHER STAY HOME IF I HAVE TO DO ALL THAT.I LOVE TO GO FISHING IN MY SPEAR TIME ALSO AND HOPE THAT I CAN FIND A FRIEND THAT WILL ENJOY DOING SOME OF THE SAME THINGS I DO THANK YOU TONY

*SIGH* It's posts like these that just make me tired. It's one thing not to be able to carry on a conversation when you have to think on your feet (not a quality I would accept in a mate, but I understand how that can be difficult for some people). But it's entirely different when this is in a post...run the frigging spell check for crying out loud!! The grammar (or lack thereof) makes my head hurt! And explain to me how he likes to go out but would rather stay home?? Which is it buddy?? Now typically I don't put full names in my blog, but if this guy is going to have his name blasted all over the dating site, then who am I to stop him? I did him a favor by removing his last name. Consider it my good deed for the evening.

I'm not quite ready to give up hope yet, but days like today make throwing in the towel seem like an attractive option. There's always tomorrow though, right?

Tuesday's Thoughts....

Nothing major to report on the dating front, but had some things on my mind and then I realized...that's what blogging is for, right?

I got an invite to a movie night at a friend's house. I went to look at the invite because I was  wondering if my recent ex "R" would be there. It didn't surprise me to see his name on the invite list especially since the friend that is hosting said party I "inherited" in our first break up about 4 years ago. But what threw me was that it was R +1. Yes. He's already seeing someone enough to have said woman included on the invitation. *sigh*

Yes, your Honor, I would like to plead guilty to the charge of Facebook stalking. Something I don't typically do and am a little embarrassed to admit that I did. However, it did pay off because the +1 looks like a man. Ironically she looks a lot like "R". Wonder what kind of commentary that says about his personality...confirms his narcissistic tendencies?? Perhaps. Made me feel slightly better? Definitely. But now comes the decision on whether to attend this party...alone... I find myself wishing I was dating someone long enough to invite them. I know it's not a competition, but I have this need to make it clear that I'm fine without him (which I am) and I'm moving on (which I'm trying to do). Who knows what I'm going to do. I'm not going to respond to the invite yet. I've got about a month to figure it out. So maybe by then, who knows??

Best laid plans...

Today I thought my post was going to be about my excitement about the dinner date I had planned with "B" this evening. We were supposed to meet up after he took his son back to his mother's house (it was his weekend with him). However, he communicated earlier today that she just told him that she wouldn't be home until later in the evening. Too late to start a date for tonight....So the dinner plans are on hold until next weekend. And thus begins some of the insecurity that still plagues me despite my best efforts. Was this just an excuse? Being a single parent, it's definitely plausible. Hell, I have my son every single day so I know that scheduling can be a challenge. However, I can't help but wonder...

That being said, I plan on using the "once is a mistake, twice is a bad habit" rule. Whether "B" realizes it or not, he used up that first chance this weekend. Seems harsh maybe, but I'm trying to follow my friend Trenia's rules about demanding respect from the outset. I went through the effort to secure childcare so that we could go out. If he can't respect my time as much as I respect his then it's not worth pursuing any further. Hopefully, this is just a fluke since I really do enjoy talking to him. 

Anyways, hope you all are enjoying your weekend! I'm having a blast watching the Olympic coverage. Have a great day!