Reading is Fundamental

Before I decided to dive back into the dating scene I felt I should do some research. After all, I'm now 33 years old and never been married or even really had a serious relationship that has lasted more than 6 months in over 9 years. Something is definitely not right, and before I blame every guy I've been with (which would be easy to do) I decided that I needed to look within to see what (if anything) could/should be changed about the common denominator (me). Lucky for me, my friend and high school classmate (who happens to be a relationship coach) recently published a book entitled "The Curvy Girl's Guide to Dating". How perfect is that, right? It's like she wrote it just for me! As I told Trenia, many ideas in the book are things that I have heard before, however she managed to put them in a different light and from a different perspective that caused me to think a little bit more about the relationships I choose to enter. I will say, it's been helpful in this go 'round of online dating. Instead of trying to find redeeming qualities in those have shown interest in me, I'm finally just simply telling them I'm not interested. Trenia's book helped me realize how I've settled in the past for "good enough" instead of waiting for "what I really want".  You can purchase Trenia's book from Amazon by clicking here

Which brings me to Bachelor #1. "B", is a 33 year old father of a 9 year old boy. He's been divorced for 4 years and has joint custody of his son. B and I started emailing each other last week and seem to click. Eventually he offered me his cell number and stated if I wanted to text him during the day that would be great. We started texting back and forth (sorry Trenia! I know that was breaking a "rule"!) But to his credit after texting during the day at work he asked if it would be OK to call me. He did last night and we wound up talking for about 2.5 hours. It was a great conversation and I'm looking forward to this evening (he's already asked if it would be alright to call me again tonight). So B is definitely a contender. We're making plans for getting together and meeting in person already!

Meanwhile there are about 2 or 3 other Bachelor's that I am in various stages of sending messages to. No one else is really standing out from the crowd, right now so stay tuned to see if any of those contenders develop into something more...

In other romantic writing themed news...my dear friend Tatum Throne just released her third book! Curvy Girl made a cameo in book two! I'm hoping one of these days I'll get a starring role. I'd like to have my HEA (happily ever after for you non-romance readers), even if it's a work of fiction! Please check out her blog here. Fair warning, her books are STEAMY!! Congrats on book 3 Tatum!

Lessons Learned....

So Curvy Girl took a break from the dating arena for a few months. This was after rekindling a romance with Mr. R. I won't bore you with the gory details, let's just say that the "R" didn't stand for "Right". So, as I have been told many times before, they're your "ex" for a reason. So after shedding a few tears, I decided to get back in the game again by renewing my subscription to that online dating site. This oughta get interesting...

Speaking of which, I already got a message from my first loser...Seriously here's the message: "would it be bad if your man was hung" Really?? That's your opening line?? Way to keep it classy "Blue eyed guy". My response: "Hung from what? A tree? Yeah...that would be pretty bad..." Never did get a response. I thought it was pretty witty!

But I have started talking with a couple guys that may have potential. Can I just say how much I hate the awkward getting to know you phase of online dating? This is the drawback to meeting people this way as opposed to just meeting them in the store or on the street and getting to know each other through a series of dates where there are plenty of other distractions/conversation starters. Besides, to have a true appreciation of snarkiness that I've turned into an art form, it really has to be experienced in person.

So off we go again! I'm determined to find love, even if it kills me (and it just might!)